If you are after 40, relationship advice can come as a real breath of fresh air to you or your relationship. It’s very easy to get stuck into routines and patterns of behavior that are damaging your marriage or relationship, and sometimes even the simplest of advice can make you see things in a different light. Check out the rest of this article for some tips to help you.
Remember why you are together-if your relationship has lasted a long time, there must be a reason. What were the reasons you got together in the first place? Figure out what they were and try to recreate them. Often in life we get so caught up in habits and routines that we lose sight of our actual reasons for doing things. If you can stay true to these reasons you can stay true to each other.
2) TALK TO EACH OTHER
Speak to each other. Communication is the key to any happy marriage or relationship. And no, everyday “necessity” conversation doesn’t count. Asking your partner to move their car or wash up the breakfast things doesn’t count. I mean conversation for conversation’s sake. Sit down with your partner and ask them about their day. Take an interest in their life. You’ll be pleasantly surprised when you do. You may find that your partner is suddenly more interested in you.
3) SHARE TIME
Spend quality time together. An hour per night stuck in front of American Idol together doesn’t count. Find some real quality time. Maybe find an activity or hobby you are both interested in and start it together. Even if you can’t find anything, you should still strive to spend some good time together away from the habits of the home, even it means just taking walks together or something.
4) LET IT OUT
Don’t bottle things up. If you have a problem, tell your partner. There’s no gain in leaving things, in fact the problems are more likely to get worse as time goes by, especially if it’s something that concerns both of you. Opening up to your partner in this way is a great way to develop trust between you both as well.
Have respect for your partner. It’s hard to be kind and loyal to someone whom you have no respect for. You can show that you respect them by listening to them when they speak, and refraining from being critical about them. Criticism, although often meant well, can often get under the person’s skin and cause them to resent and distrust you.
I’m hoping that this after 40 relationship advice will help you out and get your relationship back on track.
Older and wiser makes everything easier. But only when we apply all that we know, and are courageous enough to trust ourselves to go outside the box and live authentically. We can afford to be bold, to try new things, and know we will be intact at the end of any new journey. Being older allows us to have seen patterns of behavior, and assess if the man in question is worth our time. Age also provides another perk— we don’t have time for nonsense. Hopefully, the entirety of our life has shown us a history our on-going worth— the confidence of what we know to be true about ourselves, in a life fully expressed on every level.
And from my experience, older isn’t a disadvantage. It’s an additional asset that’s becoming quite in vogue. Along with throwing out old rules, we can finally throw out the idiotic idea that “older” means “of less worth.” The world is changing, and along with it, we need to update our definitions to conform to the greater expression of our truth.