Pretty much, since I was able to remember, I have either been asked or overheard a conversation where someone has exclaimed, “Why can’t I find the man/woman of my dreams?” Where is he/she?
Well, the man or woman of your dreams is someone who will eventually cross your path, when you have learned to love yourself. In other words, this person will come into your life when you are ready. Are you skeptical? Well, please read on, I’ll explain this some.
So many of my friends and acquaintances have come to me and asked me, “What am I doing wrong?” Where is he/she? When will he/she come along?
It doesn’t matter their age, I have heard this from all ages and they all ask the same questions. I’m going to talk about love, not necessarily romantic love or any other form of love other than learning to love yourself. How many times have any of you asked these questions, “How many times did I choose the wrong person?” How many times did I fall in love thinking it was going to last forever? Or stated to yourself “I keep finding the same unhealthy partners!” I could go on…
This is what is leading me to write about loving yourself first before you can love anyone else, romantically. Ask yourself some of these questions, “Am I comfortable with myself?” Am I happy spending time alone with myself? Do I even like myself? How is your self-esteem?
Do you find yourself ending up in relationships where someone is always trying to fix you? And then when they can’t fix you they end the relationship? Abd when it’s over, do you blame the other person? Are you happy with your goals you have set for your future? Try not to get stuck in the past but move forward and realize everything in your life’s path has happened for a reason and the right person will come along when you’re ready and have learned to love yourself.
Are you happy with your goals you have set for your future? Try not to get stuck in the past but move forward and realize everything in your life’s path has happened for a reason and the right person will come along when you’re ready and have learned to love yourself.
When you have learned to love yourself, you’ll be surprised who you will attract. You will attract a more positive person on all levels because you’re now ready to be with as healthy an independent person as yourself. Not necessarily needing this new person in your life, but ready to share your goals, hopes, and dreams with a healthy attitude. This relationship then becomes more a want in your life and not so much of a need. Both people are healthy enough to sustain their own individuality while becoming awesome together and not needing each other so much but complimenting each other.
So it’s actually you that sets this precedence for the right one to come along. “Yes, you.” You only attract a person based on who you are as a person. If you’re a mess and nothing in your life seems to be going right and you’re unhealthy in your living, attitude or lifestyle, it’s pretty certain that you may attract this same type of person.
But if you’ve learned to love yourself in a healthy way it’s likely you’re going to attract that same type of character who is also a healthy person. Who has set goals for their future and is independent. This person has got it together, they’re positive with their attitudes and as healthy as your’s when you’ve learned to love yourself! Who would you rather attract? Like I said above, it’s actually you and who you’ve become as a person which determines who you’ll end up attracting in the end.
Of course, you’ll always need your partner as well as want your partner at the same time but there’s a difference between seeking a relationship based on need rather than want.
Confusing? Not really. You know yourself, it’s not wise get involved with someone based on any selfish needs or vice-versa. A healthy relationship is what you’re after, not someone who needs you because they’re a mess and you’re going to fix them. Relationships based on these circumstances will surely fail on many aspects with one or the other leaving the other person drained, resentful, tired and possibly even leaving the relationship.
I’ve seen these types of relationships over and over. So, in the end, love yourself as you would want others to love you. Stay healthy and happy. Keep up the good work…