We are born to love and to be loved. Love is our biggest strength. Our life source is Love. Don’t we all want to fall in love with that certain special someone and have the love that we have all been told God intended for us?
Along the way in search for this special someone we may have sexual experiences with many partners unknowingly bonding with each person.
They have possibly bonded with a toxic person or vice versa because whenever two people have a sexual encounter neurochemical changes happen in the brain of each of the couple that encourage emotional bonding (the glue that holds couples together). This happens more so for the woman than the man because the female’s limbic system is larger than the males. This explains why woman are more apt to be hurt emotionally and to be tied to an unhealthy relationship. We often wonder why this woman stays in such an abusive and unhealthy situation for herself, or worse if children are involved, knowing some of this may help you to understand it better.
Men are not immune to this either, so many times we may hear of tragic endings in certain relationships. Like a tornado, these poisonous, unhealthy relationships leave everyone in their paths including the couple emotionally scarred or damaged.
This brings us to what’s called “soul ties.” Imagine a sexual encounter being like two pieces of wood glued together and the next day you rip them apart. The wood fibers are still attached. Think of this as a piece of your sex partner. It stays with you for the rest of your life. You can only imagine what happens with having multiple partners, being chemically bonded, as well as spiritually bonded, with each person they have encountered in their lives; sex being a tridimensional experience of spirit, body and soul.
Here are 10 examples that may help you recognize if you have unhealthy soul ties
- You defend your right to be in an unhealthy relationship
- You find you have an inability to maintain a proper healthy relationship
- You may feel you’re shut down emotionally
- You have lost mental clarity
- You find yourself not being able to let go emotionally of past partners
- You stay in the relationship even when friends and family are fearing for your safety
- You can’t seem to shake the feeling that this person is watching you or with still with you
- Even when you have broken up with this person you may have an unhealthy obsession and can’t stop thinking of this person
- You are willing to do anything to make the relationship work even if its at the sake of your life or your loved ones
- You feel so depressed when this relationship ends that you are willing to take your own life
Here are some spiritual tips that can help you be released from these past or present experiences. This will allow you to free yourself from this emotional pain. By doing so, you will be able to move on and admit you may have (or have had) soul ties
- Pray about this and ask God to free you from these painful ties
- Ask for spiritual guidance
- Try and get rid of anything that reminds you of this person, i.e., cards, letters, any memorabilia
- Seek a spiritual adviser, counselor or church that helps with breaking soul ties
- Another step is to forgive past partners as well as yourself
Ask for guidance to recognize and free yourself from any negative soul ties that you may have forgotten about, for example you may have been sexually abused as a child and blocked these experiences out, but its still effects you.